In this episode of Mindset Hackers, my good friend Halie Avolio and I talk about imposter syndrome and the many ways it can show up, and how to start blazing your own trail and not doing things based on the expectations of others.
Imposter syndrome is usually the feeling of:
I'm not worthy
"Who am I to"
What if they find out I'm a fraud?
They have so much more experience than I do
But Hallie explains that Imposter Syndrome isn't just not having the 'skillset' of someone who is further along the path that you, but it can also be not living in alignment with your true self, therefore giving you this feeling of not being worthy.
Bronnie Ware, in her book "The 5 Regrets Of The Dying" she talks about the number 1 regret of the dying is: I wish I had lived a life true to myself.
Hallie goes deep into how living a life that aligns with our CORE values, it puts us back into alignment and recommends journaling every day and writing down what YOUR core values are.
Hallie also challenges you to...
Imagine a door in front of you.
You don't exactly know what is behind the door, you think there could be opportunity, but also there could be danger.
There is a 5% chance of danger and +60% chance of opportunity.
But you fear what will happen if you walk through that door, instead of the opportunity that might unfold.
So you stay where you are and don't walk through.
𝘽𝙚𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙙𝙤𝙤𝙧 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙛𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙨 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚:
Feeling like and imposter.
Running out of money.
Not having enough time.
It not being perfect.
𝘽𝙪𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙨𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙤𝙪𝙡𝙙 𝙗𝙚 𝙤𝙥𝙥𝙤𝙧𝙩𝙪𝙣𝙞𝙩𝙮 𝙡𝙞𝙠𝙚:
Making more money.
Gaining more confidence.
Meeting people that lift you up.
Learning new things.
Finding your voice.
Letting go of your triggers.
Serving more people.
So, back to the fears, 95% of those worries will never happen in the first place.
And the 5% of the time that the do? What's the worse that can happen?
The real danger lies in staying in the same place, where you aren't safe anyway, because its not what is behind the door...